In a new book, academic psychiatrist Randy Sansone and academic psychologist Michael Wiederman attempt in ordinary language to help such individuals recognize the dysfunctional parenting styles they had been subjected to, and to understand a little bit about what makes their parents act the way they do.
- · They act like monsters with their family members, but are liked and highly-respected outside of the home - creating an almost Jeckyl and Hyde situation.
- · They seem to think that their children should be taking care of them - but undermine any effort the children make to actually try and do so.
- · They seem to see children a big burden, yet won’t them go.
- · They pit one of their children against another, creating even more widespread family discord.
- · They accuse their children of the very negative traits that they themselves display in spades.
- · They seem to over-react to seemingly minor transgressions made by family members, and in response become abusive and bullying.
- · They seem to be in a constant state of denial about past misdeeds. Or are they maybe just lying about it?
- · They oscillate between intruding on the lives of their children when they don't need help, and neglecting them when they do.